Secrets and blogs

At the last Blog Meetup, it was clear that some of those relatively new to blogging will still reveling in that feeling of uninhibited expression. The delightful Tom of Monsters from the ID, who was at the Meetup, had some wise words on this.

At the risk of beating a dead horse, I'll just say what I've said before: "Write your blog assuming everyone you write about will read the words you write."

One goal of my own blog has always been integration. The goal isn't to splinter my identity, with one side presented on a blog which I conceal from people in my life, but to become more whole. I know all about splintered existence from being a closet kinkster, and things are much easier for me now that I can own that proudly.

That's not to say that I don't keep some things private. I make an effort to reveal as much of myself here as I can, but not at the cost of true intimacy with the people close to me. If I suddenly find myself wanting to write something about my relationship with Conny, but I'm afraid of what she'd think, the answer isn't to start another secret blog. The answer is to face why I can't tell her directly, and to solve that problem.

That isn't to say I don't have a secret blog. But, Conny reads that one too. In fact, she's the sole intended audience. And who else would want to read entry after entry of me groveling anyway?
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